What are little boys made of?


The first instant replay was recorded in Genesis! Genesis 1 gives us a play by play overview of the beginning of the world. In Genesis 2:4-8 God formed man, The Hebrew word for formed is the same word that is used of a potter forming and shaping clay. It suggests an artistic, inventive activity that requires skill and planning- a work that is done with great care and precision.

We can only imagine what it must have been like for God to take simple dust from the ground and to skillfully fashion it into man with countless atoms, cells, organs and complex intricate systems that mystify brilliant scientists.

Then lo and behold, God breathed his own breath into the form so that he became a living soul, a reflection of his own likeness!. He created him out of the dust of the ground, then placed him in the garden of Eden. The Hebrew word for garden indicates an enclosure, a plot of ground protected by a wall or hedge. This designated space was to be man’s new home, where he would be joined with a wife and start a family.

Later we see in Genesis 2, that when a man gets married, he leaves his family or origin, in order to initiate a new family unit. So when God put man in the garden, it appears God set the man up in his own place to be head of a new home.

The mans responsibility to leave and launch a new family unit indicates that taking initiative is at the core of what it means to be a man. God doesn’t want boys to remain boys. He wants them to become men. He wants them to grow up, leave their parents, launch out, start new households and become the men He created them to be.

From the man’s perspective: “Quality is the standard of something as measured against other things of a similar kind; the degree of excellence of something. Also meaning a distinctive attribute or characteristic possessed by someone or something.

There are many qualities that men possess and there are many qualities that are looked at in a man from a woman or anyone’s prospective. As it applies to women, A man’s qualities should compare to a woman’s father…. if the father was present in your life. He should display similar qualities.  Nevertheless, he should display Godly qualities. He cannot be measured from  TV or reality shows. He must be measured to the standards that were instilled in you as a child or from the example of a male figure from your childhood. Many woman and men try to compare their spouse or significant other to someone they know or some love story they have seen on TV or read in a book.

Even though, you may look for qualities that were displayed earlier in your life, the man should show qualities of a man after Gods heart. If he is doing this, he will do just as the word tells us in Genesis 2. When he marries, he will leave his family and build his own empire. He will lead his family with the guidance of God’s word!

Many woman make the mistake of comparing men to previous relationships or what their friends and family relationships look like. We are all different and women all look for different qualities in a man. Don’t miss the man that God has for you because you are comparing him to someone’s man. There are some women whose standards are lower than yours and their quality of men may not  meet your qualities.

Have you ever wondered if your qualities were to high for any man to meet and maybe this is why you are alone?

Look for the qualities that display a Godly man, qualities that he is seeking God for the relationship FIRST.  If his qualities look anything Godly, you are starting in the right place for a man with the qualities that will make you an excellent husband.”

Well there you have it! Its time to reevaluate your now and future relationships against the Godly measuring stick!

Love you my sisters




Say Yes!


Have you decided to say YES LORD with every fiber of your being? Know that if you do, the battle will not be easy! Saying Yes to God means saying yes to the things God says about womanhood and the way we live our lives. Which means saying no to the other voices that vie for our attention- the voices on TV, the internet, magazines, ads and thousand other things that tell us what women should be and how we should think, dress and act. People that tell us what we should aspire to and how to conduct ourselves in our relationships with men.

Jesus said that those who love Him would keep His commandments (John 14:15). Obedience is an evidence that we are truly children of God (1 Peter 1:14, Hebrews 5:9, 11:8) In fact according to scripture, those who disobey His word and have no desire to obey Him, do not even have a basis for assurance that they belong to Him!

Discovering and embracing God’s design for your life will bring incredible blessings and joy. You will discover your true identity and purpose. In addition, your relationships will grow and be strengthened and it will point others and encourage them to say YES LORD as well!

Its going to be an ongoing journey. Yet it will be worth every bit of time and effort! Truly I pray that this week you have discovered why womanhood is important and understand it from God’s perspective.

We are starting a new journey on Monday. Conclude this week by writing out a prayer, asking God to truly teach you what true womanhood means and to help you grow to be a true woman of God!

Love you, be great!


The Ultimate Plan



Our first post took us back to the beginning, Genesis, and the fact we are created to display God’s image. God created us in His likeness, our purpose is to put God on display!

The responsibility to reflect God’s image was not just given to us. Mankind was created as male and female in relationship-to display something about the divine relationship that exists within the triune God. Our relationships were created to tell the incredible story of God.

Being created in Gods image gives us dignity, privilege and responsibility. He has crowned us with glory and honor and given us authority over the earth. Its a awesome responsibility to go about our daily life and all the while reflect the image of the Almighty. However the image of God has been marred, it is begging for redemption…transformation…recreation. You see God knew from the beginning that sin would distort and destroy the male female relationship. Amazingly he patterned the first couple’s relationship to  correspond with the amazing relationship that would one day counter all of the horrible tragic consequences of sin

Gods eternal plan comes to light in Ephesians, chapter 3 and then in chapter 5. He ties the mystery of Christ loving the church to the earthly picture of male and female sexuality and marriage. According to scripture, the relationship between a husband and wife is powerfully linked to the story of Christ and his Church Bride. God created male and female to foreshadow and testify about that amazing relationship and event.

Men were created to reflect the strength love and self sacrifice of Christ. Women were created to reflect the responsiveness, grace and beauty of the bride He redeemed! Marriage was created to reflect the covenant union of Christ and His Bride!

Your womanhood has nothing to do with you, but displaying the glory of God and His powerful redemptive plan.

Male and female relationships has little to do with us, and much to do with God! Our marriages and relationships should be truly God ordained, mirroring the union of Christ and his Bride

I asked a fellow friend and my Boaz, his interpretation on Ephesians 5:23. Here are his thoughts…

From A Mans View:

When you look at Ephesians 5:23, it states that the man is the head, however we often take that scripture out of context. Many men take advantage of that scripture and use it to run their home negatively! Some men view that as ‘I am the head of this marriage, this house, I make all the decisions, and my wife must submit to them, regardless” However, if I as the man is not following God, that is a dictatorship and I as the head would be leading us to hell! When we read on further in Ephesians, it breaks down exactly what we as men should be doing as the man and head of our home.  My job as the head includes many things. I must honor my wife, nurture my wife, love her, take care of her, pray for her, seek God to make sound decisions for her and my family. I am responsible for her! God is really the head of our marriage, and we as men need to seek God to become a representation of a Godly head of our home!

Does your marriage or relationship with your significant other reflect that great redemptive plan of Christ?


Additional Readings  Ephesians 5:23, 1 Corinthians 11:3, Ephesians 5:30-32


On Display For God


We start Divine Design at the beginning. Who are we as God’s creation, as women? What was God’s purpose for us?  Well Genesis gives us all the information we need to truly know who we are as men and women of God

Genesis 1:26-27 tells us that God made man in his own image and that he also gave them dominion over the fish of the sea and the birds of the heavens…the lifestock and over all the earth. God gave man dominion over everything. God created man in his own image, in the image of God, he created him!

In the first Chapter of Genesis, God paused before his final and greatest creative act. There was no question in his mind about what he was about to do. He had settled on His plan long before the foundation of the world. It was already in motion.  God had made the galaxies and planets, the sun and the moon had all been formed and aligned. The earth had ripened with life, the ground had sprouted vegetation. The sky, sea and land now teemed with vegetation.

Everything was in place, everything was ready. It all led up to this moment. The moment! The significance of what God was about to do was deeper and more profound than even the angels could fathom. He was about to make man- and to make him male and female

Humans were the only creatures that God created in His Image and after his likeness. This included the ability to think and make moral choices. It means we share his nature. We have personalities, the capacity for creativity, truth, wisdom, love, holiness and justice. We display his image!

So in essence we are on display for God!. Its not about our ability to pretty ourselves up with makeup, be a size 8, dress beautifully or be what others want us to be. God wants us to put him on display, so that everyone who looks at us sees the beauty of HIS IMAGE. That is truly an honor and responsibility to bear the image of God!

So now that you know what God’s ultimate purpose was for us as women…

Do you feel that your womanhood displays God’s glory?


Additional Reading: Psalm 8:4-6, Colossians 3:10, Ephesians 4:24


Love without a limit…

92bligemaryjI’m in an old school frame of mind today. I’m blasting Mary J Blige’s “Whats The 411” cd, Mariah Carey’s “Emotions” and some Heavy D and the Boys while I clean house and pack boxes. Mary played a poignant role in my life doing the 90s, her songs were a mirror image of my emotions. Mariah was like a close girlfriend and Heavy D….well Heavy was just Heavy!!!

I can remember me and my BFF, Evangela, sitting on the patio of base housing in Germany on numerous payday Fridays drinking wine coolers and jamming to classic songs.  Our kids were focused on Disney VHS tapes while we blasted“Love No Limit” and “You Remind Me” from the 3rd floor balcony… deciphering the words that Mary was singing…nodding our heads along with Mary as she poured out her soul. No one could pour out their soul like Mary when it came to love…

“Loving you…everyday…don’t you look no more, love without a limit!”

We were screaming, laughing and crying….all at the same time! Consoling each others love woes, complaining about our men  and wishing we were anywhere but in Germany! Then after several more coolers and hours of music therapy, we  would throw on some Oaktown 3-5-7 or Salt n Pepa and practice our dance moves… just because we were Divas!

Love had us on highs and lows….sometimes simultaneously, because love is a funny thing…it will have you  all mixed up, confused and hopeless like a penny with a hole in it!

“I never wanna live without you babe…I wanna be your lady…I love you soooo…”

And then some lovesapped weakling goes and dedicates a whole day to it…like folks don’t get enough of it throughout the year!

So now we have Valentines Day on the calendar… it’s headed our way on Thursday. The day otherwise known as Single Awareness Day… because if you didn’t know it before now, you will definitely be fully aware of your singleness on Feb 14th!

Well if you do happen to be single this go around  and have no Valentine…don’t feel bad! I saw several posts this week that blatantly reminded people  that some folks don’t have Mothers on Mothers Day or Fathers on Fathers Day…so it is what it is…..

However, don’t think that loving yourself is not an option this week…hmmmmmm just think how easy it will be. You wont have to guess about the gift, wondering if it fits or if they will like it.  You won’t have to ask friends, co workers and family secret questions to find out what they like, cause you just ran out of options and don’t know what you can get them..remember…they have everything already!   You wont have to concentrate so hard on making it taste good and you definitely wont have to think about whether there are any ulterior motives to the gift…you know like if they are expecting something in return?

Best of all, you will NOT have to watch couples fabricate and pretend they really love and care about each other, when you know the real deal every other day of the week….

And if you’re having a hard Valentines Day this year…due to a failed relationship,  etc…that is even more of a reason to celebrate. Throw on an ole school jam and reminisce…on the love you had… OR better yet, the one they lost out on…yeah they’ll be missing your gift this year…definitly!

But even after ALL that, guess what……..you will get over it…you’ll move on.. and who knows next year, you just might be one of those couples who can fabricate and pretend as well….

One thing is certain…you have to learn to love yourself before you can love someone else. Once you master self love, you are able to balance the leftover love…utilizing it wisely. Self Love helps you recognize exactly what you deserve…you wont be easily deceived into a relationship that isnt good for you! You won’t be quick to hand your heart over to someone who doesn’t meet your standards, simply because ‘its been awhile.’

This is my first Valentines Day without a Valentine and I’m a little excited….about taking myself on a date.  I’m hyped about the  gift I brought myself…because its exactly what I wanted and I love the fact that I’m finally getting EXACTLY what I wanted…..yeah I said it…

So here’s to Single Awareness Day… may it bring lots of love with no limits and plenty of after party dancing to Oaktown 3-5-7 and Salt n Pepa….then get over it and move on. Don’t let it pass you by because you are “feeling some kind of way.”

I’ll be at the spa getting a full pampering session, probably listening to some old school songs…then afterwards I’m hanging out at Red Lobster with some girlfriends who just like me are loving themselves that day.

Love can be overated…. but I like white chocolate covered strawberries…just in case.

“Loving you babe…loving you babe…love without a limit”

Peace, Love & Empowerment